In economics we talk about the time preferences of humans when it comes to spending. Someone with a high time preference prefers consumption today (spending money for example), ahead of consumption in the future. Someone with a low time preference will place more value on future consumption than the present. Unsurprisingly, most people have a… Continue reading Relationships: Let the winners run, and cut the losses.
I stopped writing over the summer, because my need to express my inner self dropped substantially. My girl moved in with me, and we had an amazing experience together. I dropped her back at her home two days ago in preparation for college, and now the need to express my feelings has increased. In summary,… Continue reading I’m back
Tomorrow is the first day of my divorce negotiations. We have engaged with a mediator as opposed to taking the adversarial approach. We’ve already discussed much of the detail, and have come to some broad agreements as to what we both see as reasonable. The biggest conflict is likely to be around the medical situation.… Continue reading Divorce negotiations
I asked my marriage therapist about what I should say to H, and when I should say it. She doesn’t know the full details about how long this has been going on. I wanted to share it, and I am still processing. Hello. I am so happy that you were able to make a connection… Continue reading Advice from my marriage counsellor
I’m feeling a lot of them today. With hindsight, I would have done so many things differently. Let me be clear, I wouldn’t change the decision I made to leave my wife for A. However, I feel like I’ve created a bigger mess by extracting myself from H than was needed. I desperately love my… Continue reading Regrets
I’ve been living separate to my wife for around four months. She left to visit relatives in early October 2016, about a week after I first started talking to A. Four weeks later, the day before she was due to fly back to the USA, I told her that I didn’t want to be with… Continue reading How I ended my ten-year marriage by text
Dearest A The relationship with his child is the most wondrous thing for a man. You see, I feel that you are a part of my family now – a treasured joy. I’ve adopted you. I’ll not let any harm come to you, and you are in my custody. You are safe. I’m a tireless… Continue reading A letter to my love