Tomorrow is the first day of my divorce negotiations. We have engaged with a mediator as opposed to taking the adversarial approach. We’ve already discussed much of the detail, and have come to some broad agreements as to what we both see as reasonable. The biggest conflict is likely to be around the medical situation.… Continue reading Divorce negotiations
The reason my relationship failed with my wife is that we were sexually incompatible. I’m tired of reading the standard thinking that good sex comes with love – I believe that you can’t have a lasting love without good sex. Myself and H never had even an OK sexual relationship – not even at the beginning… Continue reading Love doesn’t work without sex
Tonight I will attend the engagement party of some good friends of mine. I’ve been making a lot of jokes lately about how crazy the whole concept of marriage is to me. You could argue that I am a little bitter, and have been stung by the ending of my marriage, but I don’t think… Continue reading Why I am against marriage, and monogamy, and for safe sex.
I asked my marriage therapist about what I should say to H, and when I should say it. She doesn’t know the full details about how long this has been going on. I wanted to share it, and I am still processing. Hello. I am so happy that you were able to make a connection… Continue reading Advice from my marriage counsellor
I’m feeling a lot of them today. With hindsight, I would have done so many things differently. Let me be clear, I wouldn’t change the decision I made to leave my wife for A. However, I feel like I’ve created a bigger mess by extracting myself from H than was needed. I desperately love my… Continue reading Regrets
I’ve been living separate to my wife for around four months. She left to visit relatives in early October 2016, about a week after I first started talking to A. Four weeks later, the day before she was due to fly back to the USA, I told her that I didn’t want to be with… Continue reading How I ended my ten-year marriage by text
Dearest A The relationship with his child is the most wondrous thing for a man. You see, I feel that you are a part of my family now – a treasured joy. I’ve adopted you. I’ll not let any harm come to you, and you are in my custody. You are safe. I’m a tireless… Continue reading A letter to my love